The Working Woman’s Way Out of a Style Rut

The busy womans guide to getting out of a style rut.

Welcome to the Working Woman’s Way out of a Style Rut! I am so excited you’re here! Let me start off by saying this isn’t your average blog post. This is the most comprehensive article on this topic I’ve found anywhere on the internet. It includes exercises, outfit examples, and actionable steps to help you to navigate your way out  of your style rut and get dressed effortlessly each day.

  • If you feel like you always end up wearing the same thing everyday this guide is for you!

  • If you feel like you stare at your closet not knowing how to pair your clothes together this guide is for you!

  • If you want to get dressed EFFORTLESSLY each day without the headache this guide is for you!

 

In this Guide you will learn:

  1. How to navigate your way out of a style rut so you feel excited about your wardrobe again.

  2. How to determine what you actually NEED in your closet.

  3. How to create outfits effortlessly with items you already have in your closet.

  4. What items you can add to your wardrobe so you always look like your most “put together” self.

 

Again, I am so excited for you to be here and I can’t wait for you to jump in and begin to see all the possibilities for your wardrobe.

For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Arden Brewer and I am a shopping & style consultant.  I help women just like you express their unique personalities through style!

The reason I decided to write this guide is because I kept hearing my clients complain about “having nothing to wear” while having some of the most amazing wardrobes money can buy. Time after time they would say, “I just don’t know how to pull it all together” or “ I always end up wearing the same thing”. This was coming from women of all different ages and budgets so I knew I had to dig deeper and figure this out.

The “I have nothing to wear” problem is something I have also experienced. Personally, I’ve always been interested in fashion and if you heard my friends or family describe me you would probably think I had it all figured out. I certainly did not! I had a lot of really cool pieces in my closet but it felt disjointed like nothing really “went together.”

There have been many a time I’ve stood in front of my closet frustrated and defeated! Something had to change!  So I developed my own little systems and practices that have helped me EASILY create a wardrobe that feels authentic, put together, and effortless.

That is what I want to share with you today.

Like I said this ain’t your average blog post, this guide is long so if you would like to download the PDF version to read at your convenience enter your email here and I’ll send it right over!

 

 

Table of Contents

Chapter 1: Get your mind right! The simple mindset shifts that will get you out of your rut.

Chapter 2: Do you feel like you have a closet full of clothes and nothing to wear? How to determine what you ACTUALLY need in your closet.

Chapter 3: How to determine your unique style vibe.

Chapter 4: Where to find your style inspiration

Chapter 5: Out with the old &  in with the new!

Chapter 6: Start where you are with what you have.

Chapter 7: How changing your proportions can give your clothing new life!

Chapter 8: Dipping your toe into a wardrobe update. The easiest items to transition into your wardrobe.

Chapter 9: Color, Texture, & Pattern, Oh my!

Chapter 10: What to add to your closet asap!

Chapter 11: Bloated? Running late? Feeling down? 3 plans to have you looking amazing, even when you’re not feeling your best.

Chapter 12: How to Effortlessly Maintain Your Style.

Chapter 1: Get your mind right! The simple mindset shifts that will get you out of your rut.

If you find yourself putting on the same outfit over and over, feeling tired of your wardrobe like you have nothing to wear day in and day out, you may be in a rut. It happens to all of us at one point or another. Maybe you’ve just gone through a life transition, have had changes in your body, or feel too damn busy to worry about what you’re wearing.

Don’t beat yourself up, a rut is easy to fall into and luckily super easy to get out of!

What is a rut anyways? According to Google a rut is a habit or pattern of behavior that has become dull and unproductive but is hard to change. People typically stay in ruts because that they don’t know how to get out of them.

Weather you are constantly in yoga pants or maybe you like your wardrobe but just need to jazz it up a bit I am going to show you EXACTLY how to do that in this guide.

First I’d like to start by debunking a few common myths that often keep us “stuck.”

Myth #1: The Myth of the “put together” Woman.

We all know or at least have encountered this woman. She always looks impeccable, not a hair out of place, she just oozes “I have my shit together.”

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Remember Helen from Bridesmaids?

 

So often we compare ourselves to this woman. Thinking she has some magical power that we simply don’t possess. I want to let you know right now  This woman does not exist! I repeat, this woman does not exist! As flawless as she may look trust me it was not effortless.

Nothing is effortless.

If you really think about all the women you’ve encountered you deem as “put together” what do they have in common?

In my experience what they have in common is a bit of planning and effort. They have frontloaded the process of creating their style & getting dressed.

One of my favorite business gurus Ramit Sethi says that frontloading means “putting in the work beforehand so you can reap bigger rewards later on. It’s probably the biggest key to success in any area of your life.”

This definitely applies to your wardrobe as well. Maybe these put together women have read a few fashion books, carefully select clothes to add to their closets each season or simply plan out their outfits the night before. The bottom line is that by doing some work ahead of time they will continue to reap the reward of getting dressed easily each day.

Take any magazine, movie, or tv show for example. Every single model or actor has had their outfits planned out for them. That’s why they look so great! Nothing about their look is effortless it has all been meticulously planned.

There is nothing that separates you from the “put together woman” or any celebrity for that matter. You just have to start exercising your front loading muscle and doing a little planning ahead of time!

Myth #2: That fashion is frivolous and you are vain if you take time to care about your style.

Unless you live in a nudist colony clothes are just part of the deal. You can either opt in to caring about how you look or opt out. Studies show that when you dress better you feel better. So why not choose to opt in and feel fabulous?

In an article for the Daily Mail, Professor Karen Pine says that Putting on different clothes creates different thoughts and mental processes…Changing your clothes can change your mood and your thoughts.”

Clothes can determine the way people treat us, whether we get a raise at work, or simply how happy or confident we feel on any given day. Dressing well can literally change your life for the better!

Myth #3: That fashion is a club and you’re not part of it.

Too often I hear women saying “I could never wear that” or “That may look good on someone else but I could never pull it off.”

These phrases drive me NUTS!

Why would you never wear something? What invisible force is stopping you? Who told you only certain people get to wear certain clothes? It just simply isn’t true. There are not a select few people who are “allowed” to be stylish.

What is stopping you from creating a wardrobe that reflects who you are?

Do you think…..

  • When I lose the weight, then I’ll make an effort to create my style

  • When I get more money, then  I’ll participate in buying the right clothes for me

  • When I get my act together, then I will be the type of person who puts effort into style

Go ahead and give yourself permission to look your best right now no matter where you are in your life.

Every single one of us no matter our age, where we come from, what our bodies look like have a beauty to share with the world. And you can share some of your beauty through your style!

With those myths debunked we can move into the more tactical portion of this guide. Many of you may be thinking “OK, Arden. I understand I shouldn’t compare myself to other women and caring about my style isn’t vain, but I’m just not feelin it when I get dressed in the morning.”

My advice to you is 1). Keep reading and 2). Like my mom always says “fake it til you make it.” If we stopped doing everything because we just didn’t feel like doing it, nothing would get done! So, just start taking ACTION and it will get easier. I promise!

Chapter 2: Do you feel like you have a closet full of clothes and nothing to wear? How to determine what you ACTUALLY need in your closet.

Have you ever found yourself rushing around the house late for work frustratedly scanning your closet full of clothes, and find nothing to wear? This shirt doesn’t work with these pants. I don’t have the right shoes for this dress. This skirt makes me feel fat …and so on. You end up picking the same old tired thing you always wear.

I’ve been there too. I’ve literally been hours late to social functions because I could not find anything to wear and ended up crying out of sheer frustration.

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The good news is through all my frustration I came up with a simple first step. A way to structure your thinking so you don’t have to feel defeated each time you get dressed. A way to shop smarter so the clothes you purchase actually make it onto your body and out the door.

Think to yourself….What activities do you actually need clothes for? Break down your lifestyle. What do you do in your life? Where do you live? Do you go to an office? Do you run around with kids? Do you go out with the girls?

The activities you participate in the most will determine what you buy and wear the most.This sounds so simple, but it is truly helpful when mentally organizing your life and your wardrobe.

Choose the top five areas/activities you need to dress for and then place them in order of frequency. A worksheet to help you go through this process will be free at the end of this guide. First, let me show you how I go through this process.

My top 5 activities are….

  1. Work

  2. Social Events

  3. Hanging at Home/Errands

  4. Exercise

  5. Special Events

Then, I think through what these life activities actually consist of:

1) Work.

-Either at home or in a coffee shop

-Shopping for clients

2) Social Events.

-Date night with my boo

-Drinks/Dinner with friends

-Concerts

3) Errands/Home.

–  Shopping, groceries, appointments etc.

– Cleaning/Cooking

– Hanging at home

4) Exercise.

-Hitting the gym 4 times a week. Ok, 3 but I’m working up to 4!

-Walking with my dog

-Riding my bike

5) Special Events.

-Parties

-Weddings

-Vacations

By doing this you can get clear on what life events you actually need clothing for instead of just buying things at random.

Ideally your closet should be a direct reflection of your lifestyle. If it isn’t, then it is time to consider doing some wardrobe editing aka getting rid of some of your shit, which we will get to later.

Some of this may seem obvious, but take a look in your closet. How many items do you have that have never been worn, or will never have an occasion to be worn? Do you see room for items you may need right now?  When our wardrobe reflects our lives, it allows us to get dressed without the frustration and negativity.

 

 

Chapter 3: How to determine your unique style vibe.

What’s your style? A loaded yet simple question all at the same time. Determining what your style is may seem daunting but it doesn’t have to be.

To get started you need to consider these 3 things. How do you want to feel in your clothes? What do you want to look like? And What are you trying to say to the world?

 

How do you want to feel

#1 How do you want to feel in your clothes? I don’t know about you, but I want to feel comfortable! But besides that do you want to feel confident? good about your body? Uplifted? Powerful? Think about it, pick three ways you want to feel to start. And this may be different for different areas of your life but start with 3. This is something that can help you when you are shopping or cleaning out your closet. If the items in question don’t fit the criteria of how you want to feel then it’s an easy pass.

#2 What do you want to look like in your clothes? Do you want to look put together? Sexy? Slim? Quirky? Boho? Classic?

This question is interesting because while so simple yet it can be hard to just put it out there. We are kind of wired to think style either comes naturally or it doesn’t and thinking seriously about how we want to look is silly. Not true! I don’t know about you, but I want to look sexy and strong and put together in my clothes. How do you want to look?

#3 What are you trying to say to the world? Like we discussed before like it or not your clothes are communicating with the world so may as well start participating in the conversation. Think to yourself what am I trying to say to the world? Do I want to say I’m professional? I’m happy? I’m artsy?  There is literally no wrong answer. It’s your life and your wardrobe!

This may change occasion to occasion season to season, but let’s try to get a baseline here. Try to come up with three things for each question so you can have a point of reference.

This can be hard, but it’s important to get a vision of your style as starting point. Get really honest with yourself about what you want. Give yourself permission to dream about the amazing woman you are and how you want to present yourself to the world. This is suppose to be fun after all! As you get used to thinking this way you will get clearer and clearer about what your style is.

Chapter 4: Where to find your style inspiration.

Having inspiration crucial!  Andy Warhol had Edie Sedgwick, Picasso had Dora Maar. We all need a little inspiration to get us excited and moving in the right direction.

One of the easiest things to do if you are feeling stuck with your wardrobe is seek out a little inspo! Now keep in mind there are 3 types of inspiration: practical, aspirational, & abstract.

Practical Inspiration is inspiration you can easily apply to your current lifestyle. These are items or outfits you could easily recreate yourself and transition into your closet.

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Aspirational inspo is something that you are really drawn to and like the overall aesthetic of but wouldn’t necessarily wear in your own life.

This is equally important to collect because it can help you get clear on the overall mood you want to take your look in and even if you aren’t comfortable wearing something now it doesn’t mean that will always be the case.

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Abstract inspiration is something you are drawn to but does not directly depict style. This could be a gorgeous city scape, beautiful flowers, a pillow with a pretty pattern. It is anything you are naturally drawn to even if it seems unrelated to style. Often times random things that we don’t even realize subconsciously inspire our style.

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With these types of inspiration in mind you might be thinking where do I go about collecting all this? Luckily we’re in the age of information and all of this is just clicks away!

The mother of all places to start is Pinterest. You can easily find all three types of inspiration there. You can also follow fashion bloggers, get on your favorite stores email list, or stalk stylish strangers on instagram or facebook for ideas. I have more recommendations in my checklist at the end of this guide.

Building a library of this inspiration is super important. I like to make Pinterest boards specifically for my style inspiration. I include all three types of inspo on one board so I have a clear vision of what I’m aiming for with my style. It helps you get the overall mood.

You can also make a folder on your computer to store all your images, or collect screenshots on your phone etc. The main purpose is putting all the photos in one place so you can reference them easily.

I like to revisit these images when I’m feeling uninspired by my style or find myself getting into  a rut. It is a great way to quickly remind yourself what excites you and give you a jolt of new direction.

Chapter 5: Out with the old & in with the new!

As they say “Out with the old & in with the new!” You’ve got to get rid of what isn’t working so you can make room for what is working.

If editing your wardrobe sounds daunting and just downright mind numbing, you are not alone. Truthfully if one more person says the word “edit” to me I may lose it (but that’s a different story).

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The good news is this part of the process doesn’t have to be painful. I’ve boiled it down to a few simple steps and questions so you can get this done quickly and easily.

Step 1- Determine what’s clearly not working.

This will be fairly obvious. Are there items in your closet you have literally never worn and know you probably won’t ever wear? Things you put on then end up taking off because something doesn’t seem quite right? Things that are worn out? Don’t fit?

Go ahead and pull all those items out. This is pile #1.

Step 2Locate the items that you like but just aren’t sure how to wear.

These will be the pieces that when you put them on look great but you think “I need _____ item to make this piece work.” Or the items you really like but are unsure of what will pull the look together. This will be pile #2.

Step 3- Take a look at what is left.

These will probably be the pieces you wear the most, that you really love and feel confident wearing. Take a mental note of these items. This is going to be what you can keep doing more of to have a really solid wardrobe. Leave these items in your closet.

Now going back to pile #1. Here is where you need to be really honest with yourself. If there are items you know you will never wear, are worn out and raggedy looking, are unflattering, or just don’t feel like “you” is time to donate those bad boys! Let them have new life for someone else. You just weren’t meant for each other, that is ok!

As for pile #2 time to ask yourself some questions. For the items that you are completely unsure how to wear but really like. Are you committed to figuring out how to wear them? Or are they going to continue to be hanging question marks in your closet? If you’re down to figure it out keep the item. If not, donate it.

If you have a couple things that you know want to keep but need another item to make it work. For example you have a killer dress, but you know you need a certain type of shoe to make it all come together. Are you ready to take the time to purchase those items? If the answer is yes keep that awesome piece! If not, time to let it go!

A quick note. If you are unsure how to wear something often you can refer to your inspiration for ideas or simply do a quick Google Search. “How to wear ________?” will often yield tons of photos and advice.

Note: Most of us have a few  pieces that don’t fit but we hold onto because we are planning to lose those last few pounds. There are many different theories out there about this. I don’t think there is anything wrong with keeping these items around. Group them all together and hang them at the back of your closet or put them in a box under your bed.

Nothing wrong with having a little clothing motivation, but they shouldn’t be mixed in with clothing that does actually fit you right now. Otherwise you’re just torturing yourself. If you find these items motivating , then keep them in your closet. If they make you feel defeated, then box ‘em up and put them out of sight for now.

For those of you who are hoarders and the thought of getting rid of something makes you want to crawl into a hole and die. #1 pull yourself together and #2 you don’t have to get rid of your clothes right this second if you don’t want to. Go ahead and box them up or hang them in another room but get them OUT of your closet. If you find yourself going back to pull things out of that pile then consider adding it back to your closet if not give it a month then pull yourself together and donate.

Chapter 6: Start where you are with what you have.

The most important thing you can do is start with what you already have in your closet. You won’t be able to successfully transition new items into your wardrobe if you don’t know what is currently working with what you have now. So use what you wear and love most as a starting point.

What do you always find yourself wearing? Jeans? Dresses? Pretty blouses? Double down on those items. Notice the things you wear most and start building new outfits around those items first.

Most people think it is a bad thing to always end up wearing the same thing, and it can be, but try using these items as a starting point.

The simplest way to get started is to rethink how you pair your items together. Pair a different top, pair a different bottom, add a layer, rethink your accessories. It’s that easy!

For example. If you live in jeans and a cute top like many of us (guilty!) think about what other bottom besides jeans could you pair with it? A simple skirt or a pair of cool trousers?

 

 

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You can also consider playing with  layers like a cool blazer, jacket, or sweater. Throw these over anything. Dresses, blouses, even simple t-shirts.

 

LAYERS

Lastly the most simple thing is to rethink your accessories, but more on that later.

Remember this is an ongoing process and the most important thing you can do is play around and not take it too seriously. You want to make a change in your look and that can feel challenging. The most important thing you can do is take action so you don’t get stuck.

When writing this guide I continuously got stuck. I’ve never written anything this long (I went to art school) So, I really had to push myself. What I noticed was when things got tough and I didn’t know what to do to move forward I just stayed stuck making no progress at all.

I had a teacher Primoz Bozic of (The Ultimate Guide System) who was instructing me how to write this very guide. I reached out to him for help and he advised me to take action and keep moving even if I didn’t have all the answers.

He was 100% correct in his advice. I want you to heed this advice as well. You may not naturally know how to put the most stylish looks together or what is “on trend” this season. That is perfectly ok! Just continue to experiment, take note of what you love wearing, and when you feel stuck remind yourself this is a process and take action!

You got this!

 

Chapter 7: How changing your proportions can give your clothing new life!

Feeling like you always wear the same thing can be a frustrating feeling especially when you want to spice things up in the closet department.

Playing with your proportions is such a simple way to create variety in your outfits. Sometimes the monotony doesn’t come from wearing the same pieces over and over but wearing them in the same way all the time.

If you always find yourself in loose fitting garments by simply adding something more fitted you immediately change the proportion of the look. You can wear items you love but in new and different ways.

Check out some examples of the most commonly worn proportions.

 

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fitted fitted

Fit FLare

loose loose

fitted loose

After looking at these common examples can you pinpoint which one(s) you wear most? How can you use items already in your closet and create new proportions?

My challenge to you is to pick a proportion you don’t commonly wear and incorporate it into your outfits this week. This is a simple way to change things up with items you already own or can give you an idea of new shapes to look for when you are out shopping.

Chapter 8: Dipping your toe into a wardrobe update. The easiest items to transition into your wardrobe.

The absolute easiest way to update your wardrobe is with accessories. It is easy to feel overwhelmed during this process so I always advise people to start with what feels easiest which is typically accessories. These are your Shoes, Bags, & Jewelry etc.

Jewelry. It’s an easy way to spruce up your look with minimal investment.  You could opt for some super dainty items that would be great for everyday or go in a more statement direction to punch up more basic items. Here are some examples of jewelry items you could add.

 

 

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Bags. Most of us don’t change our purse every single day however having a variety of bags can be a simple way to change up our look. Consider adding a different size bag to the mix or simply opting for a colored bag instead of a neutral can make all the difference.

 

 

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Shoes.  Everyone’s favorite! Having the right shoes is paramount to a look coming together, so you want to make sure you have what you need. With shoes it is important you have the right basics. This will vary depending on your lifestyle but it is key that you have great versatile options in place before branching out to more bold styles. Here are a few basics I recommend.

 

 

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Chapter 9: Color, Texture, & Pattern, Oh my!

When in doubt opt for trying new colors, textures & patterns. This is a great way to add dimension to your outfits. Oftentimes, a combination of these three elements is what makes the difference between a boring outfit and a “wow, you look great!” outfit.

As you’re thinking about pattern. Think of adding stripes, animal prints, florals, or polka dots.

For texture, think velvets, quilted, calf hair, or chunky knits.

 

 

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Color! This one is easy. If you are always in neutrals add in some color. If you wear a lot of color but lack those key neutral basics, make sure you add those staples into your closet asap.

The key here is to just try something new. Adding a colorful scarf or funky velvet jacket to the rotation is an easy way to jazz things up.

Another way to add color while still maintaining versatility is by utilizing neutral alternatives.

Neutral alternatives are colors you can add into your closet EASILY! We all know neutral colors like gray, black ,cream, white.etc.

Neutral alternatives are colors that aren’t neutrals but can stand in for them when creating outfits and mix with a variety of pieces.

Some examples are:

Army Green– A great alternative to khaki or brown.

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Navy- Can easily stand in place of black.

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Blush is a beautiful option instead of a cream.

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Mauve works as a great alternative to gray.

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Next time you’re out shopping and reach for the same old neutral item see if you can find it in one of these alternative colors. Buying some of your staple items in neutral alternatives is a great way to add in a variety of colors that will easily pair well together with many different pieces in your closet.

To recap Color, Texture & Pattern are great ways to jazz up your look. If you are a blazer girl instead of plain black try a cool new color. If you love a beautiful blouse try one with a pattern or maybe go for texture with a velvet shoe. Think of your favorite items in your current closet and start to look for similar styles in different colors, textures, or patterns.

Chapter 10: What to add to your closet asap!

In a perfect world or a perfect closet I should say, none of us would have to add a single thing to make our wardrobes a cohesive wonderland. 99.9% of the time it just isn’t the case. If you find yourself struggling to get dressed chances are there are a few items missing that can tie everything together beautifully!

Use your daily activities that we mapped out earlier as a starting point. What activities, times of year, weather, social events do you struggle getting dressed for? These points of struggle are going to be when it becomes very clear what’s missing.

For example, I recently moved to Florida and the winters here are super mild. When the weather got a bit cooler I had a hard time with my footwear. All of my black heavy boots just felt too dark for the landscape and since I do so much walking wearing heels all the time wasn’t an option. So this point of struggle is where I directed my attention to first.

If you’re not sure where you’re struggling use your closet edit as a point of reference. What did you get rid of that now needs to be replaced?

We all have different lifestyles and different ways we want to look, however here are my top 5 items to add to your closet now.

 

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  1. Add a layer like a tailored blazer or leather jacket. Go neutral or go for a little color whatever suits your fancy. Jackets are great ways to add layers to your outfits and are visually more interesting that just a top paired with a bottom.

  2. A silky blouse. Whether you are more girly or more masculine you cannot go wrong with a silky blouse. These beauties are great with denim or with a skirt for work. They are versatile and feminine all at the same time.

  3. Ankle Pants. When in doubt show some ankle! Super flattering for many shapes and sizes. Tailored trousers or skinny denim when they hit at or just above the ankle it has a visually slimming effect to the leg. Who doesn’t want that?!

  4. Everyday bag. Having a good everyday bag is key. There is nothing worse than having a great outfit and a bag that doesn’t “go.” It’s nice to have a bag in a neutral or neutral alternative color to ensure it pairs well with a good portion of your clothes.

  5. Comfortable boot with height. Everyone looks better with a little bit of extra height. A great staple to have is a comfortable ankle boot. For the most flattering fit make sure the opening of the boot floats away from your ankle a bit. This will make your ankles look a bit smaller! If you aren’t someone who loves heels try a chunky heel or wedge for optimal comfort.

 

Chapter 11: Bloated? Running late? Feeling down? 3 plans to have you looking amazing, even when you’re not feeling your best.

Businesses, schools, and public spaces are all required to have evacuation plans, or emergency protocols, so if something goes wrong, they will know exactly how to respond.

Our closets need an emergency protocol of sorts as well!

Have you ever had an experience where you may be running late in the morning, feel super bloated, or are just in a bad mood?

I know I have and it sucks! If I’m running late I dont have time to think through an outfit. Or if i’m bloated I keep trying on things and none of it looks flattering.

That is why it’s important to have some backup plans for moments just like this.

#1 For those running late mornings.

Can you pre-plan 1-2 go to outfits for the times you are running late? You can mentally take note of these looks or lay the outfits out and take a picture. To keep it simple start with clothes you are most comfortable in and build your outfits from there.  You can reference these pictures  whenever one of these running late moments strike and you’ll know exactly what to wear. Crisis averted!

#2 For the times you feel bloated.

It is inevitable the days of puffiness will show up at some point and it can be frustrating to feel like nothing fits. You need a bloated back-up plan!

Instead of throwing on yoga pants or something giant to hide in how about you come up with a plan so you can breeze by this annoying problem with ease?

First things first. Don’t wear anything too tight. Do you have a pair of pants, skirt, or dress that is more comfortable and forgiving than others? Start there. Base your outfit off your more forgiving items (notice i did not say sloppy items) and create your look from there.

Always go for comfortable shoes so at least your feet are happy even if the rest of you is not.

To avoid looking sloppy add a structured bag, blazer, or tailored trousers to the mix. Throwing the element of structure into your look will help to balance the looseness you may have opted for in another part of your outfit.

#3 For the times when you feel down.

Clothes have a unique way of communicating ourselves to the world. The cool thing is we can also use them to communicate to ourselves as well.

Putting together a really slammin outfit even when we aren’t feeling too hot can make us instantly feel better —–at least you look good right? and often times our feelings will follow our outfits lead. Seriously!

Throw on a color that makes you happy, a pattern that makes you smile, or a beautiful piece of sparkly jewelry. Adorning ourselves with something special or fun can remind us throughout the day to smile.

Chapter 12: How to Effortlessly Maintain Your Style.

At this point you know exactly what steps to take to update your wardrobe and get out of that rut. So how do you maintain it all? I have 3 easy ways to keep you on track and save you time and energy each day.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock you have most certainly heard of meal prep or batch cooking. Mckel Hill of Nutrition Stripped says batch cooking is…..

Basically,  preparing most or all of your meals and snacks for the entire week on 1 day out of the week.

The major benefits are:

  • Saves you time.

  • Keeps you on track.

  • Takes the mental “burden/obligation” of making a decision

  • It’s a fun way to diversify your food and meal choices throughout the day and week.

The same concept can be applied to your wardrobe. You can essentially batch out your outfits for the week. Heres how! 

 

First take note of what your weekly activities will be then select outfits for those activities. This is great to do on a Sunday at the start of your week.

Will you be mostly working? Have a social or networking event that you need to look amazing for? This will save you from not knowing what to wear last minute!

Then hang each outfit together in a specific section of your closet. I have my outfits at the front of my closet so they are easy to see. Pick a place that feels best for you. I know people who have a separate section or rack they use to put their planned items.

This will save you so much TIME deciding what to wear. You don’t have to be OCD about assigning an outfit to each day of the week, but it will be helpful to have several completed looks on hand.

 

You can do this as loosely or as detailed as you want. You don’t have to plan down to what sweats you’re going to change into when you get home (unless you want to).

Your next maintenance system is the Seasonal Edit. Summer, Fall, Winter, and Spring. Just ahead of the upcoming season you should check in to make sure you have everything you need.

You will go through the same editing process from Chapter 5. The great part about doing this is that it will get easier and quicker each season you do it and you will become a pro at knowing what needs to stay and what needs to go. This is a skill you can get better at!

Lastly, it’s Inevitable there will be a time when you get frustrated with your closet or are unsure what to wear. The last step in maintaining a killer closet is to let yourself off the hook. Remind yourself you are not the only one who has closet drama. If you feel yourself getting upset just tell yourself …….

 

 

mantras

 

Everyone worries about their bodies, everyone feels like they aren’t enough some days, but it’s all normal. You are on the right track!

To recap we’ve now learned the essential mindsets, practices and systems to nip your rut in the bud and update your beautiful wardrobe.

We’ve learned that:

  • The external affects the internal= change your style change your life

  • That the put together woman does not exist. It’s all about preparation and a little know how!

  • How to determine what you need for your lifestyle and where to find inspiration

  • The importance of effectively editing your closet

  • What to add to your closet and how to play with proportion

  • Lastly how to maintain it all so you can focus on the important things in your life!

I hope you’re feeling inspired to get into your closet and make some positive change!

With these new skills it won’t take long to see the positive effects of these practices.

Because I think you are so awesome I created a free step by step worksheet to walk you through this entire process!

Remember you are so worth it!

If you loved this guide and know someone who would love it as well it would mean so much if you passed it along. I aim to help as many women feel awesome about their closets as I can and I need your help to spread the word!  

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